We boil at different degrees.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
I am sure by now. I would have countless entries on differences and being different.
And because this topic came up again over the weekend while conversing with a friend. I guess because I feel so strongly about it, here's another.
Case 1 :
Imagine if everyone you knew looked, talked, dressed, thought and acted the same? Then, there would have been no Walt Disney, no Minister Mentor Lee or Tiger Woods.
You would agree with me "That's pretty boring." In this case, you will prob think that being different is
pretty ok or
maybe being different is good because both you and I don't want to live in a "boring" world.
Case 2 :
A group of children age 5 is playing in a playground, they seem to be engrossed in an intense conversation, their voices lowered, their faces serious with occasional giggles, they seem to be deep in plotting strategies and 1 girl sat away from the group reading. She is well-liked by her peers and she often is invited to join the group in their games but this time, she prefers to sit out of the game. Its not because she doesnt know how to play the game, or is bad at it, nor just had a fight with the group or anything else. She just didn't feel like playing with the group.
What is most people's reaction to this ? Ah. there must be something wrong with this little girl who refuses to play with the rest of the kids ?
How many of us have the following thoughts running through our minds
- Why is this little girl not playing with everyone else ?
- How can I help this little girl play with the rest ?
She is being different ( different being the same word used in case 1 ), she has her individual thoughts and feelings and she doesnt feel as if she has to play the game even when everyone else is playing it. Why is everyone else not playing with her ? or why help the little girl play with the rest when she seems at ease, happily engaged in reading ?
Why is it that Singaporeans in general do not have an appreciation for 'differences' ? Why Why Why ?
If Singaporeans can acceptance with food differences, eating with our hands, fork and knive, spoons and even chopsticks. Or if we have gone to school with someone of a different race all our lives, and learn to celebrate their festivals and truly be happy for them. If annually, a bunch of young people( namely AIESECers ) around the world learn to work with different cultures, warmly welcomes people of another culture into our lives or eagerly learns about other cultures and even integrate ourselves into different cultures.
Can we too extend this acceptance to more differences ? So my dear friends, i love to hear about your advantures, your insights into accepting a girl who doesnt want to play with the crowd. No she is not stubborn, she is just different.